Are You a Good Man?
Fellow Man,
In today’s world, there’s a lot of noise around what it means to be a good man or even the ultimate man. One minute, society tells you to be tough and stoic; the next, you’re told to be vulnerable and sensitive. So, what does it really mean to be the kind of man that others respect, trust, and women desire?
Here's the truth: a good man is a balanced man. You don't have to lead an NFL team to the Super Bowl or become the next billionaire. He’s not one extreme or the other, but someone who knows when to be strong and when to be soft.
It’s the balance of several factors, while being true to your unique identity, that creates magnetic attraction.
So what does balance look like in a man? Below are eight waypoints you can use to calibrate your internal GPS.
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1. A Man Who Leads with Confidence (But Isn’t Controlling)
Women are drawn to men who know how to lead—but not just in the big moments. They want a man who can lead everyday decisions with purpose, direction, and calm. He doesn’t control; he guides. He’s not afraid to take the reins when needed but is also willing to listen and adapt. Confident, but not overbearing.
2. A Man Who Is Emotionally Mastered
Women want emotional depth, not emotional chaos. The ultimate man has mastered his emotions—he doesn’t fly off the handle at the slightest frustration, nor does he shut down when things get tough. He’s the calm in the storm, a man who can hold space for her emotions without letting his own run wild. In a way, everything comes down to emotional mastery.
3. A Man Who Is Driven by Purpose
A man with a clear sense of purpose—whether it’s in his career, his family, or his personal growth—is deeply attractive. It shows that he’s not just coasting through life, but that he’s building something meaningful. When you have purpose, women feel that energy, and it pulls them in.
4. A Man Who Knows How to Listen
This might seem simple, but it’s rare. A good man listens actively, not to fix the problem, but to understand. He acknowledges her feelings, asks questions, and goes deeper. This emotional connection is what builds trust, intimacy, and respect in a relationship.
5. A Man Who Takes Care of Himself
Women want a man who takes care of his body and mind. It’s not about having the perfect six-pack (though that doesn’t hurt), but about showing that you value your health and are disciplined in your habits. Physical and mental strength go hand in hand, and when a man is healthy and confident in his own skin, it shows in everything he does.
6. A Man Who Protects (Without Smothering)
Protection doesn’t just mean physical safety. Women want to feel emotionally safe with you, knowing that they can be vulnerable without fear of judgment. The ultimate man creates an environment where she feels supported, respected, and cherished—not smothered or controlled.
7. A Man Who Is Consistently Proactive
A good man doesn’t sit back and wait for things to happen. He takes consistent, proactive action in his life and relationship. Whether it’s planning date nights, tackling challenges head-on, or making sure his wife feels seen and appreciated, he’s constantly moving forward.
8. A Man Who Knows His Value
Lastly, and most importantly, women want a man who knows his worth. He’s confident, but not arrogant. He respects himself, sets boundaries, and holds his own. This self-assuredness is magnetic because it shows that he’s a man who doesn’t need external validation—he knows exactly who he is.
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So, what does a good man look like in today’s society? He’s a balanced leader, emotionally intelligent, purpose-driven, and confident in his own skin. He knows when to lead and when to listen. He’s physically and mentally strong, protective but not overbearing, and he values himself just as much as he values those around him.
If you want to learn how to develop these traits and become the man, take the 2-minute assessment and let’s work together to make it happen.
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Bart Morse
Founder & Coach
Lion’s Den Program
